Abusers in Control of Themselves

Abusers in Control of Themselves

Despite what many people believe, domestic abuse is not due to the abuser's loss of control over his behaviour. Domestic abuse is a deliberate choice made by the abuser.

In the majority of cases the following can be said to be true of his behaviour;

  • He is not violent with other people i.e. his boss
  • He is able to stop and compose himself if the police arrive or the doorbell rings
  • If he uses physical violence he is able to choose where to cause visible injuries- often in places where others can not see them
  • He damages the victims possessions but rarely his own